Reply To: Having babies

[rubipsy]

It sounds like you’re in a delicate situation, balancing personal desires, financial considerations, and family expectations. The first step is having an open, empathetic conversation with your husband to understand his concerns in more depth and express your own feelings as well. It might help to explore these questions together:

• Can you plan for children in a way that feels more financially secure? Perhaps setting a timeline or savings goals could help both of you feel more comfortable.
• What specific financial concerns does he have? Look into the actual costs of having a child and see if there are compromises, like adjusting lifestyle choices, budgeting differently, or seeking additional financial advice.
• How do you both feel about the timing of starting a family? If not now, when might feel more comfortable for both of you?

As for the family pressure, it’s important to remember that the decision to have children is between you and your husband. You can kindly set boundaries with your families by explaining that you’re considering this decision carefully together.