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  • Posted by Quyen on September 28, 2024 at 8:32 am

    I have always dreamed of having babies. The problem is, my husband doesn’t want to have children right now because he thinks it might negatively affect our financial situation. He believes that having a baby would cost a lot of money, which we can’t afford at the moment. He wants us to live a comfortable life without worrying too much, even if that means not having kids. On top of this, both of our families are pressuring us to have children. What should I do?

    Quyen replied 4 months, 1 week ago 2 Members · 2 Replies
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  • rubipsy
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    October 1, 2024 at 8:21 am

    It sounds like you’re in a delicate situation, balancing personal desires, financial considerations, and family expectations. The first step is having an open, empathetic conversation with your husband to understand his concerns in more depth and express your own feelings as well. It might help to explore these questions together:

    • Can you plan for children in a way that feels more financially secure? Perhaps setting a timeline or savings goals could help both of you feel more comfortable.
    • What specific financial concerns does he have? Look into the actual costs of having a child and see if there are compromises, like adjusting lifestyle choices, budgeting differently, or seeking additional financial advice.
    • How do you both feel about the timing of starting a family? If not now, when might feel more comfortable for both of you?

    As for the family pressure, it’s important to remember that the decision to have children is between you and your husband. You can kindly set boundaries with your families by explaining that you’re considering this decision carefully together.

  • Quyen
    Member
    October 8, 2024 at 8:37 am

    My husband wants us to have a comfortable life, and he believes that when we have a baby, our child deserves to be happy and well-provided for. To reach that stage, we need to be financially stable. My husband comes from a poor family, and the difficult experiences he faced growing up have shaped his belief that he doesn’t want our children to go through the same struggles. I love my husband, and I understand what he’s been through.

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